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Wednesday, October 01, 2008, 2:51 AM
it was our 9th monthsary today.we looked at gadgets, had a nice dinner, window shopped, arcaded, caught a movie
but something made me feel really really mad/pissed/bek chek/dulan/[insert any other word of similiar nature]
and now i am going to blog about it to vent and i don't give a damn whether the other person likes it or not
the person doesn't even know about or read my blog anyway
here's a recap of what happened that started it all.
on the night of 12th march, us colleagues went clubbing and i asked E to look after my camera
unfortunately E drank so much and got seh that he sat on my camera by accident thus cracking the lcd screen. we brought it to the sony care center but damages to screens aren't covered under the warranty therefore it would cost 200-300 to fix the screen excluding 80bucks service fee and also gst which would amount to 400++ in all so no point fixing it.
at first E offered to pay the full price of the camera which was $449. but seeing that the camera was already 7-8 months old i felt it was unfair to make him pay the full amount so we agreed at $400 instead or if not he'd pay for a new camera and if it cost less he would top up to it would amount to $400.
some time later, E said that he managed to find lobang to get the screen fixed and it would only cost about 200. since he'd be able to get it fixed at a much lower price than outside, i felt it was fair that he just bring my camera for repair and pay for the cost to repair the screen. but after weeks he said he couldn't get it fixed. around may or june, esmond paid me $50 bucks first cause he didn't have enough to pay the full amount and then he'd pass me $50 or $100 every month til he paid the full amount.
all this while i have taken it that he will be paying me $400. i haven't heard from E about the remaining money ever since. no msgs no calls no nothing, zilch. there were times i wanted to ask him about the money, but i everytime i thought okay i know he has to pay school fees and stuff so i shouldn't hurry or pressure him. when my friends asked about whether he paid back, i'd say only 50 bucks and they'd go "huh, howcome so long?". i even had a big fight with shixiang once over it cause he thought i ought to be harsh and get back the money once and for all but i said i didn't want to put pressure on E then shixiang sent a harsh sms to E using my phone without my knowledge.
okay, fast foward to the present..
during the 1st week of september, i msged E regarding the money.
i asked him if he could transfer me part of the money because i was getting broke and in need of money,
which is true cos i hadn't been working much lately and i needed quite an amount of money to repair my bike after it had been recovered by the police.
he replied me saying that he would return me the money and asked for my account number. (he did not specify to say when he was gonna transfer the money so i assumed it would be ASAP)
i sent him the number the next day.
i waited about 1-2 weeks but still i didn't see any money being deposited into my account.
so i msged him about the money again 2 weeks ago
and he replied saying that he was waiting to get pay before he could pay me.
so today while i was out,
he msged me.
from here onwards i shall show word-for-word our sms exchanges
i swear that i did not edit any of the words to make myself look good or make him look bad or just to change how the conversation went.
everything is exactly how it is in my inbox and outbox
E - 7.58pm
i will transfer you your money now.
Me - 8.23pm
Okay.. Thanks!! How much will you be transferring?
E - 8.50pm
150 plus last time 50, total 200.
Me - 9.41pm
Okay.. So balance Still left another 200..
E - 9.48pm
So much, you tell me pay you the screen money ma.
Me - 9.50pm
So how much do you intend to pay me in total?
E - 9.52pm
200 lor, for the screen ma.
Me - 9.55pm
that time you wanted to pay the full cost of the camera which was 449 then i told you that Nvm just pay 400 instead since the camera is a few months old? What am i supposed to do with 200.. Can't even cover the cost of a new camera?
E - 10.00pm
Ya i know, but then i remember you told me pay for the screen de after you said you want to go overseas.
Me - 10.06pm
That's when you said you would go fix the screen yourself.. You pay for the screen is fair.. But the fact is you did not.. So you only gonna pay me 200 but yet not get my screen fixed? So where's the logic in that?
E - 10.08pm
Ya that was after, i can't fixed the screen myself. i remember to pay 200 back.
Me - 10.14pm
Why not i give you back the 200 you fix my camera? I only agreed to you paying the cost of the screen only because you said you had lobang to fix the screen.. Don't you think it's unfair if you only pay for the screen when the bloody camera is still spoilt..? You understand what i'm trying to say or not?
E - 10.17pm
Ya i understand, and i not trying to be funny i just pay what i heard ma. If like that i pay you 100 more lor.
Me - 10.23pm
It's kind of common sense isn't it? You said you wanna go fix it then okay, you pay for the screen.. But you never did right? So you still dare to say pay the screen price only? You already took your own sweet time and never even take your own initiative to return.. I don't say anything already being kind to you.. But it's already been 4 months plus.. I have to chase and chase for you to bother.. I am very very disappointed in you.. And now suddenly price can drop by 100.. What is this?
E - 10.36pm
Aiya ok, you want to think like this i can't said anything. I know i make spoil your camera and must pay i also know, but you can't said i take MY OWN SWEET TIME. If i'm rich as you or rich family as you, i won't own you any money and i will buy the best and pay you back. You know right i need to work topay for my shit thing, and you still said me until like this. I now go ATM transfer you your money. VERY SORRY FOR HOLDING YOUR MONEY SO LONG. I now knowle, MONEY will DESTROY everythings.
[before i could reply he sent me another sms]
E - 10.39pm
Sorry that i'm poor guy, i said those things not to let you pity me. I'm fine for all there thing, and REALLY VERY SORRY.
Me - 10.41pm
I never said that you have to pay everything at one shot.. But you can at least pay bit by bit right? Even if cannot at least msg to say sorry can't pay for the moment or something.. You just keep quiet and never say anything.. If I'm So Fucking rich i won't have to chase you for money right? I can just tell you Nvm no need Pay back at all.. It's not you don't want to pay everything I'm angry.. It's because you never even take the initiative to say anything at all.. At least you tell me i know right?
E - 10.44pm
It's ok, never mind i know can le. I just go transfer everything at once, sorry.
Me - 10.49pm
You not enough money Nvm.. You can transfer when you have.. From the start i never ask you to transfer all right? If not that time spoil i can demand i want all right away.. I just now even say balance left how much.. So don't mistake that i am heartless and i demand all the money now.. I just want to know that i'm getting back what's mine..
E - 10.59pm
I already pay you all le, so total is 350 and 50 total is 400.
that was the last sms we exchanged.
i didn't know what to answer.
if i replied "okay, thanks!" or "okay i have receieved the money" it would seem so smug
and i couldn't think of anything else i could say that wouldn't make things any worse
so i just did NOT reply at all after that.
god knows whether this will cause our friendship to be gone or whether we'll ever talk again.
somehow i feel that we probably won't be friends anymore.
i feel so so so fucking yuan wang (misunderstood and accused of something i didn't do) and angry.
does he know that whenever people ask me why he still hasn't paid after so long and why don't i chase him to i always defend him?
i say because i know he needs to pay his stuff also.
i had every right to demand the money all at once from the very beginning.
i could have even demanded the full amount or that he buy me a new camera of equal value.
but no, i only asked him to pay 400.
i know i did no wrong.
i did not ask him to pay a price that was too high or unreasonable,
hell i didn't even ask him to pay up all now,
you know how bloody long it's been since 12th march?
it's fucking half a year and 2weeks.
am i wrong in asking for what is owed to me?
and he still makes it out that i am the fucking bad guy, that i am unreasonable and not undertsanding to his plight.
i was so fucking pissed and dulan earlier i actually cried angry tears!!
i mean is it not common sense?
our original agreement was 400.
we didn't go ahead with fixing it at sony cos it would cost 400-500 which is so expensive and as good as buying a new camera.
but he said he could give the camera to his lobang to get it fixed for 200.
so i thought it was fair if he could get the camera fix, he would only need to pay the cost to fix rather than the amt originally agreed on.
if i could get the screen fixed at 200 on my own i won't bloody have to depend on E right?
i can just fix on my own but the actual fact is it is damn expensive to fix.
so since he didn't go bring it to be fixed in the end, it is only fair that he pay me back the original price agreed on right?
if not he pay me only 200 and screen is still spoilt, and even if i fix the screen now i will still have to top up amount.
i lose out right?
i really wonder whether it's because he got no bloody common sense or he really doesn't understand how you should act when you owe people.
if i were him, i'd be fucking paiseh that i owe someone money for so long.
half a fucking year for goodness sake!!
even if i didn't really have the money i would transfer at least abit every now and then.
if i really didn't have the money to pay i would msg the person and say "i'm sorry but i really can't pay you this month but i will definately pay some by [XXX date/month]"
i mean when you owe people money you should know how to "zuo ren" right? (i have no idea how to express this in english)
it's all about the principle, not the effing money.
if E really couldn't pay but he at least let me know now and then he didn't have the money and he would transfer some by so and so date at least okay, i know, E actually still remembers and actually takes the effort to take some action.
but hell he didn't mention anything for months and months,
am i wrong to say he took his own sweet time?
i really feel so so so wronged.
i have already tried to be understanding to his situation and even defended him.
i just need some of the money now because i am broke cos i have been spending hundreds on my bike
and i want to know roughly when i will get paid.
i believe i have waited long enough that i can ask when and not be in the wrong to ask.
and i know i am not being unfair in the amount that i asked for, i even lowered the amount because i felt bad to demand the full price.
i have every right to want E to take intiative and action to at least contact me about the money even if he can't pay
even today i am not demanding him to return me everything by this moment,
i am still okay if he needs time just as long as he updates me.
yet he makes me out to be a superficial person who only cares about money and that money has revealed my true colours.
i have already gotten back my money so why am i still bitching?
because i feel damn bueh song and beh chek that i have been wronged.
i would like to know what you guys think.
was i too much or wrong in what i did/said/think?
i really want to know and i will take it like a woman if you think i was.
just tell me honestly.
thank you.
thank you for reading all of the above really patiently, ( i know it is really lengthy)
for bearing with my bitching,frustrations, angry words, (childish) thoughts, etc
and for giving me feedback (to those who will actually tell me what they think)
i am done venting now.
goodnight.
nicole<3
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